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NEW YORK -- Dan Marino sat a turkey platter, mashed potatoes and steak plate
away at the Thanksgiving dinner table Thursday night. Who better to spend a
football Turkey Day with than the man with the golden arm?
But Dan wasn't the star of this table. In fact, his passing records, the
touchdowns, the wins... they meant very little on this night. Because
sitting at his right elbow was a living, breathing miracle.
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Mike Marino says, 'I'm always
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Dan's son Mike doesn't seem any different from any other adolescent. He
plays on the school football and basketball teams, regularly pulls in A's
and B's and has made an art out of teaming up with his brother Joey to
needle their theatrically talented older brother Danny.
Mikey is about as normal a 14-year-old boy as there is. But it's his
normalcy that's the miracle.
Mike Marino had autism as a young child. Mike Marino appears to have
beaten it -- completely. Not a sign remains. Yes, that would qualify as a
miracle.
"I usually don't bring it up much because I get this really cold feeling
when I think about how I had autism," said Mikey, one of six Marino kids. "I
think about how I am now and how I was then, and it's just too weird for me.
"I won't say I have been cured because you can't really be cured of
autism. But I have overcome it. That's what you can do, you can overcome it.
I don't notice it at all anymore."
Autism interferes with the normal development of the brain in the areas
of reasoning, social interaction and communication skills. Children and
adults with autism typically have deficiencies in verbal and non-verbal
communication, social interaction and leisure or play activities. The
disorder makes it hard for them to communicate with others and relate to the
outside world.
It is conservatively estimated that nearly 400,000 people in the United
States have some form of autism -- the third most common developmental
disability. But the majority of the public, including many professionals in
the medical, educational and vocational fields, remain unaware of how autism
affects people.
My mouth drops as young Mikey Marino explains what it's like to be one
those mysterious people stuck in a world that seems so unexplainable.
"The only thing I really remember about having autism was wanting to say
something and not being able to do it," he said. "It's pretty weird to
explain. It's like you are a perfectly normal person on the inside, you know
what you want to do, but you just can't do it. You know you want to say
something, pick up something or do something, but you are just not able to
do it."
It's well known the Marinos had a child with autism because of the
prolific charity work they contribute to the fight against it. But the fact
Dan and wife, Claire, have seen their child beat the unbeatable is hardly
known. The issue is rarely broached within the confines of their home
because, well, it's really no longer an issue.
"Some of my friends have come up to me and said, 'We hear you have a
brother who has autism,'" Mike says with a proud chuckle. "When I tell them
it's not my brother it's me, they are like, 'No way.' They know that
autistic people have problems saying things, but I guess I'm not one of
those people anymore."
Mike's father might have been blessed with the golden arm, but Mike's
story is inscribed in platinum ink. The improbable comeback story of their
lives began when Michael was an infant.
"At first, we just thought he was such a well-behaved baby because he
slept great, he didn't really cry, but then we began to realize something
wasn't normal about it all," Dan said. "He wouldn't talk, he didn't really
have any social dealings with other kids or his brother. He would just sit
up in his crib. So we had him tested, and we learned that he was autistic.
"It was so difficult on me and Claire, because the first thing you do is
think about what you did wrong for something to affect your family like
this. But then after you come to terms with it, you have to learn as much
about it as possible and then go attack it."
In order to attack it, Dan and Claire began a foundation to assist
children with learning disabilities. That foundation then led to the Dan
Marino Center in South Florida, where they actually bring in an average of
3,500 children per month for testing and treatment for a variety of
disabilities.
"We were fortunate we could afford to bring in specialists in the house
and we brought people in to help him every day," said Dan. "We had him work
with occupational therapists, physical therapists, one-on-one teaching. We
had the resources. That's where the idea for the center came about. It's a
place where people who may not have the same resources can bring their
children to get diagnosed and treated."
Marino sought a reason for Michael's plight, and maybe this is it. Had
Mike not suffered from the disability, the Dan Marino Center might never
have come to fruition.
"My mom told me that she and my dad made that whole Dan Marino Center
because of me," said Mike. "That's really cool to hear."
When Mikey was 4, the Marinos began to see glimmers of advancement. Soon
after, his progress began to accelerate, and the hope that their boy just
might be able to break began to illuminate through the darkness.
"By about third grade we were able to get him into some mainstream
classes in school," said Dan. "Eventually, he just progressed to the point
where he was completely mainstreamed. Now, we really don't bring it up
anymore because it's not even an issue in his life. He's as normal a kid as
you'll meet.
"Forget anything I ever did on the field, this is the most incredible
thing I have ever been around in my life. My kids are all really
incredible."
Michael says he was unaware of his situation for years until his parents
informed him of his mysterious past. He now remembers the feeling but has
blocked most of it from his memory bank.
"I had an assessment testing when I was really young, and it was
noticeable that I had autism," he said. "Then I had another test about eight
years later, and the doctor said it was the highest improvement he had ever
seen in those tests. I didn't really remember it until I was about 9 years
old, I think it was, and my parents talked to me about it. It was kind of
weird to hear and to think about. We don't even talk about it anymore."
As dinner winds down, Claire gives a personal one-on-one talk to each of
her six children (two were adopted from orphanages in China) to let them
know how thankful she is for them. Perhaps the biggest thanks is that when
she talks to Mikey, she talks to a young man no different than the rest of
the Marino clan.
"I know it's Thanksgiving, so I guess it's the appropriate time to be
thankful but I'm always thankful," Mike said. "I really was blessed. To hear
that I was one of the most remarkable cases of overcoming autism is really
cool to know. I'd love the chance to help out other people like me. I really
appreciate how blessed I am."
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